Dear Internets, Please Just Talk Some Sense Into Me

I have two sisters and a brother. My brother is 6 years behind my younger sister. In that 6 year gap, my mom had a stillborn boy, so when my brother came along he was very much like an only child in many, many ways. And the spoiling that went on with the boy was great. GREAT. We whined a lot about the things my brother got away with that we never would have. I may even to this day be whining about how he was treated differently.

For years, I thought this was due to the fact that he was the baby. Everyone knows that the baby is spoiled and petted. Parents don't want to give that baby up, so they coddle him far more than they ever did older siblings. And by years, I mean about 37 of my 39 years.

I've recently come to realize that while this is partly true, there are other factors involved. By the time the baby of the family comes along, parents are much more laid back. We realize that not every battle is worth fighting. We know that kids will be alright if they don't eat their breakfast at the table, but rather in the car on the way to somewhere. Again. We are experienced, and allow kids more freedoms because we're more secure in our parenting role.

Micah is spoiled. Very spoiled. I'm adult enough to admit this. I blame all of the above, and my age. I'm just too tired to fight things. Too many years of sleep deprivation will do this, you know. Ironically, the older kids are as much to blame for this as the younger ones, and they are the ones that whine when the baby is spoiled.

So this chronic sleep deprivation, coupled with my attitude of Do I Really Still Have to Deal With Things Like This After Being a Parent For 15 Years? has dragged out Micah's potty training longer than it should have. Plus, I didn't want to initiate a fight. I was afraid that I'd lose. That boy is stubborn.

He's pretty much for the most part potty trained. So he only deposits solids into the toilet on average of once every other week. It's coming along. But he's in underwear every day. It's the Pull-Ups at night that have been niggling in the back of my mind. My MIL informed me (when I forgot to send a Pull-Up for an overnight trip) that he got up in the night to go potty and went right back to sleep, waking up dry. I was amazed.

So I'm asking you for help. Please shame me into just tossing those Pull-Ups already. I think he's ready to go all night in underwear. Tell me that washing sheets on occasion isn't the worst thing in the world. Tell me to expect more of him, and just make him grow up already.

Anyone? Help?

11 comments:

Karen Deborah said...

I'm in your corner woman stop spoiling the baby look how big he is!!

ModernMom said...

Ohh I am guilty of spoiling the baby..but...if you are going for the big toilet training push. Do it now! Before the cold weather hits. Better in the warm sunshine yes?

imbeingheldhostage said...

uh... dang, you hit below the belt Karen. Ky is still in night time pull ups and I think I've had that nagging voice you've been hearing telling me to stop-- it's just that I am so tired and on the really tired days washing bedding IS a big deal. Sorry. not what you wanted to hear, is it?

Let's make a deal and do this together. We can text while laundering.

Trisha said...

You can do it . . . resist the Pull-ups urge! It is time.

Roger said...

Toss the pull-ups, get rid of them. AND teach Micah how to do the laundry for those days he does have an accident. I bet he would do okay, just make sure you limit the soap. :-)

JennyH said...

Yay for Micah!! I wash so much bedding it's crazy. Max has outgrown the night time pull-up stage, unless he has a lot to drink before bed and I know he didn't go pee before falling asleep. I will then put a Goodnights on him. However Sam does not wake up during the night, even if she peed all over the place. I still have her wear a goodnight pull up. Maybe if I bit the bullet and did without she would figure it all out. But I'm with you, Am I ready for this?? Washing even more bedding so does not sound like fun. I would test Micah out for a couple of nights. If he makes it, than Congrats!!

Burgh Baby said...

Pull. the. plug.

You can do it!

Carol N. said...

Put the pull-up money you save into a jar, and buy yourself something lovely with it! That's what I would do...in fact I think I'll go do that right now!

Shellie said...

You are ready to let go, GO FOR IT! He's ready. You can handle a little accident here or there, and it's much easier than pulling out the pull ups every night to put on him, you just let him go to sleep, which fits the secure tired parent syndrome perfectly

Michelle said...

Yeah... I tried that. Did you read about how well that went with Little Miss? She's back in Pull Ups now. I gave up. She won't go to high school in Pull Ups. It's my new mantra.

caramama said...

Accidents here and there really aren't a big deal. They really aren't! Give it a try, and you'll see.

Some good advice I got was to layer the bed like this: a water proof mattress pad, a sheet, another water proof mattress pad and then another sheet. That way if he wets the bed in the night, you just pull off the top sheet and mattress pad and don't have to worry about making the bed cause another layer is already there! Isn't that brilliant?