BlogHer, Home Edition

For all those who haven't headed to BlogHer this week, I'm here to fill the void. (I know, just what you wanted, right?) But I've been around here long enough to learn a few things and just thought I'd share with you.


1. Write like nobody is reading.

While we're all in it just for the comments (whether we admit to it or not), the key is to write for yourself. If you try to be somebody that you aren't to impress others, it becomes noticeably fake. The most compelling story that you can tell is the one that is real. Somehow, fiction cannot hold a candle to real life, even if real life is losing your patience while in the grocery store with four kids in tow. That's what makes people relate to you. It's what makes them come back. It's what forges friendships. Be real.

2. Write like everybody is reading.

I know what I just said, but the fact is that a blog is public reading material. Maybe not the bathroom variety (at least my laptop doesn't go there), but it's out there for the whole world to see. When you're writing, remember that every word is public and even if nobody you know reads, it's there waiting to be stumbled upon. You never want to be ashamed of what you've written. If you would never say it out loud, don't write it down. If you don't want your in-laws to know, don't say it. (Hi, Freda!) If you don't want your friends to know, don't put it out there. Be honest, be kind, be above shame.

3. If you won't say it on your blog, you probably shouldn't say it on another blog.

This is a personal peeve of mine, and maybe it's just that. While I have nothing against guest blogging, I do have issues with using someone else's private space to air your conscience. If someone hacks you off and you need to spout, call a friend. Email a relative that you can talk to. Have coffee with a close co-worker. But if you're ashamed to say it on your own blog, you shouldn't be saying it on someone else's blog. Remember, blogs are public domain.

Does this really need to be said?

4. Reciprocate the love.

Common blogging courtesy says that if someone comments on your blog, you go comment on theirs. (I try, really I do!) I understand (trust me, I do) that we get busy from time to time (like all summer) and it's difficult to follow someone with any kind of regularity. But a little show of love every now and then goes a long way. Also? Comment on their post. Don't use someone else's blog to push your business, or your cause, or your personal convictions.

Go. Write something. And make it real.